Why Finding the Right Therapist Fit Matters More Than Fancy Modalities

Have you ever walked into a therapy session and thought, “Wow, I feel like I’m trying to vibe with a houseplant”? If so, you’re not alone—and honestly, no amount of CBT, EMDR, or alphabet soup is going to change that.

As a dual-licensed clinician (and human), I can tell you with absolute confidence: therapy doesn’t work if you don’t feel seen. Full stop.

Relationships Over Acronyms

Look, I get it. Modalities are important. They give structure and tools, and they definitely help us nerdy clinicians make sense of chaos. But here’s the deal—if the relationship between therapist and client isn’t rooted in trust, safety, and that intangible “you get me” feeling, it doesn’t matter how many treatment models we throw at it.

Therapy is not a drive-thru. You can’t just order a side of DBT and expect lifelong healing by the second session.

When It Doesn’t Fit, You’ll Know (And That’s Okay)

You might not click with the first therapist you meet. Or the second. That doesn’t mean therapy “doesn’t work.” It means you haven’t found the right co-pilot yet.

Some therapists are super structured. Others are more relational, free-flowing, intuitive. Some love worksheets (bless them), and some would rather you burn them in a bonfire while you talk about your mom.

The good news? There’s no one right way. The better news? You’re allowed to be picky.

Don’t Settle for Safe and Shiny

Let’s be real. Some therapists are polished professionals with pristine offices and flawless grammar. And if that’s your thing—fantastic. But others (like me) might drop the occasional curse word, call you out with love, and laugh with you when life is just absurd.

Therapy isn’t about performing wellness. It’s about being real, messy, raw, and sometimes, hilarious. If you can’t bring your full self to the space, how can you possibly do the deep work?

How to Know You’ve Found the Right Fit

• You feel safe enough to be honest (even about things that make you cringe)

• You leave sessions feeling challenged, not judged

• You can laugh, cry, vent, or rage without fear of being “too much”

• You’re not watching the clock, praying for it to end

That’s the magic. That’s when therapy actually starts to work.

Final Thoughts (With Love and a Little Sass)

Finding the right therapist is kind of like dating—awkward, exhausting, and full of potential. Don’t give up. Swipe left until you find someone who sees the real you, pushes you gently, and walks with you through the wild terrain of healing.

At MPOWERme, I’m here to help you do just that—with humor, honesty, and a heart that’s all in.

You deserve a space where you can drop the mask and do the real work. Let’s find that fit—together.